Life's Messy

I went with some friends of mine on ANOTHER girl's nite out! I must be doing something right??? lol. Anyway, we went out to eat, and then decided to go and see BRIDE WARS. I thought from the previews that it looked cute, so off we went. It was really a very clean, funny look at the relationships between people, women specifically. There was one line that stood out to me. One fiance' said to the other, "Life's messy." I've heard this before, but I think that I have not believed that all my life. I think, in the back of my mind, I thought that smooth sailing was proof of a good life. When now I think that feeling of sunny days and smiles can just be masking other things deep down. For instance, when Travis and I first were married, it made me proud to say, "We never fight." Did that mean Travis didn't make me angry, definitely not, it probably just meant I wasn't dealing with the problem. Also, churches that we have worked in. When problems or disagreements came up, did that automatically mean that God thought it was our time to leave? Maybe, maybe not. Those could have been opportunities for us to learn something, to grow. We've learned since then that problems exist in every church, it's just how willing you are to work them out and get them solved. Just like our marriage, we are still married, of course, but we are trying not to hold things in. Life's messy. Conflict doesn't mean the end. It's just discovering the differences between us all. Kudos to the people who stick around and work things out. I want to be one of those people. I think we treasure the things we fight for. My marriage is worth it, my church is worth it, and my relationships with my friends are worth it.